Cyber Bullying Not Just A Teenage Issue
Posted by Bradley W. Deacon
As I see more and more incidents of Cyber Bullying and Stalking on a daily basis I thought it best to post reference to a great site ‘Cyber Bullying Statistics’ Stop Bullying, harassment, and Violence and reinforce that cyber bullying/stalking is not just a teenage issue.
The ‘Cyber Bullying Statistics site has some great links relating to Cyber Bullying and I urge all to read it.
One particular area that the site reinforces is that cyber bullying is not just an issue facing children and teenagers, it also is a problem amongst adults.
One would think that as people mature and progress through life, that they would stop behaviors of their youth. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Sadly, adults can be bullies, just as children and teenagers can be bullies. While adults are more likely to use verbal bullying as opposed to physical bullying, the fact of the matter is that adult bullying exists. The goal of an adult bully is to gain power over another person, and make himself or herself the dominant adult. They try to humiliate victims, and “show them who is boss.”
There are several different types of adult bullies, and it helps to know how they operate:
- Narcissistic Adult Bully: This type of adult bully is self-centered and does not share empathy with others. Additionally, there is little anxiety about consequences. He or she seems to feel good about him or herself, but in reality has a brittle narcissism that requires putting others down.
- Impulsive Adult Bully: Adult bullies in this category are more spontaneous and plan their bullying out less. Even if consequences are likely, this adult bully has a hard time restraining his or her behavior. In some cases, this type of bullying may be unintentional, resulting in periods of stress, or when the bully is actually upset or concerned about something unconnected with the victim.
- Physical Bully: While adult bullying rarely turns to physical confrontation, there are, nonetheless, bullies that use physicality. In some cases, the adult bully may not actually physically harm the victim, but may use the threat of harm, or physical domination through looming. Additionally, a physical bully may damage or steal a victim’s property, rather than physically confronting the victim.
- Verbal Adult Bully: Words can be quite damaging. Adult bullies who use this type of tactic may start rumors about the victim, or use sarcastic or demeaning language to dominate or humiliate another person. This subtle type of bullying also has the advantage – to the bully – of being difficult to document. However, the emotional and psychological impacts of verbal bullying can be felt quite keenly and can result in reduced job performance and even depression.
- Secondary Adult Bully: This is someone who does not initiate the bullying, but joins in so that he or she does not actually become a victim down the road. Secondary bullies may feel bad about what they are doing, but are more concerned about protecting themselves.
Adult bullies are often in a set pattern. They are not interested in working things out and they are not interested in compromise. Rather, adult bullies are more interested in power and domination. They want to feel as though they are important and preferred, and they accomplish this by bringing others down. There is very little you can do to change an adult bully, beyond working within the confines of laws. The good news is that, if you can document the bullying, there are legal and civil remedies for harassment, abuse and other forms of bullying. But you have to be able to document the case.
Adult bullies were often either bullies as children, or bullied as children. Understanding this about them may be able to help you cope with the behavior. But there is little you can do about it beyond doing your best to ignore the bully, report his or her behavior to the proper authorities, and document the instances of bullying so that you can take legal action down the road if necessary. (Cyber Bullying Statistics 2009)
Adult Cyber bullies also follow the patterns of using the same technology as adolescent and teens as indicated below.
Cyber bullying affects many adolescents and teens on a daily basis. Cyber bullying as reported in ‘Cyber Bullying Statistics 2009, involves using technology, like cell phones and the Internet, to bully or harass another person.
Cyber bullying can take many forms:
- Sending mean messages or threats to a person’s email account or cell phone
- Spreading rumors online or through texts
- Posting hurtful or threatening messages on social networking sites or web pages
- Stealing a person’s account information to break into their account and send damaging messages
- Pretending to be someone else online to hurt another person
- Taking unflattering pictures of a person and spreading them through cell phones or the Internet
- Sexting, or circulating sexually suggestive pictures or messages about a person
Cyber bullying can be very damaging to adolescents and teens and adults alike, it can lead to anxiety, depression, and even suicide. Also, once things are circulated on the Internet, they may never disappear, resurfacing at later times to renew the pain of cyber bullying. (Cyber Bullying Statistics 2009)
Preserve The Evidence
It is imperative that you preserve all the evidence relating to your experience of being a victim of a cyber bully or stalker. As such, I have created the Cyber Bullying Incident Report Form walks you through on how to record such evidence and the form is a temporary solution as my App development team finalize our Cyber Bullying Evidence Gathering App.
If you are a victim or know of a victim of cyber bullying please feel free to review the Cyber Bullying Incident Report Form below.
Cyber Bullying Statistics 2009, sourced at http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/cyber-bullying-statistics.html on November 4 2013.
Posted on November 4, 2013, in Cyber Bullying, Cyber Stalking, Uncategorized and tagged Adult, Bullying, Children and Young People, Cyberbullying, Mobile phone, Stalking, Violence and Abuse, Youth. Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.